I was recently inspired by the song, "Same Love" by Macklemore and Ryan Lewis speaking for those affected by the war on marriage equality in our nation. There's a lot of people who are for it, and a lot of people who are very against it; but for all of you, especially those that it makes uncomfortable, I'm writing this blog in hopes that we can find peace among the nation and coexist.
We fear what we don't know, but we have overcome great obstacles that have made us a greater nation.
First it was black Americans vs. white.
First we clashed, we beat down and killed. Racism ruled a nation, whites hating blacks, blacks feeling the hate and returning it in self defense. Wars between people, the whites claiming that their God said they were bottom feeders, but others wanted to spread love, knowing that we are all human and in that we all deserve the same rights. A nation exploded in hate, in confusion, in fear.
And you know something?
We surpassed that.
Then it was women vs. men.
Women were viewed as weak, homemakers and nothing more,. Harsh words of inequality were said while in that moment strong women who were willing to do anything to protect their children, their homes, their livelihood, made bold moves to change the world. Their own husbands betraying them, “they need to stay in the home, that’s where a woman belongs. She doesn't deserve a right to her body, she’s an item, a belonging to her father, then to her husband." It was thought women couldn't compete with men on any level.
You know what?
The nation changed their mind, and we overcame that too.
Now, it’s 2013. “America the brave still fears what we don’t know.” Living in the ignorance, and the comfortability in life. No one wanting to face what makes them uncomfortable. But America, you forgot that you faced that twice already, you faced your prejudices, and for the most part were able to overcome. While there are still issues, the past has proven that though something may be beyond our comfort, we have been able to make change. We have found the ability to look past that fear, look past that hatred that was carried on from generation to generation, and coexist. So why can't we do that with those who love someone of the same sex?
Many are outraged as laws are made to allow gay marriage, speaking words of hate. "They're going to burn in hell," acting like they are aliens, or have the plague. Trying not to let their children see in hopes that they won't grow up like that. Stereotypes and prejudices about lesbians and gays have been passed down from generations, the hate is alive today because children were raised on that hate. Thinking that it is wrong because their god said it was.
But you know what else?
God doesn't say anything about it in the bible. There is one verse that pertains something about marriage, but it wasn't God who said it, it wasn't his son or the holy ghost either. It was a man with prejudices. A friend made the point to me that, "[Christian's] are more than likely getting their views from the outdated intellect of their elders. They are basing their views in a text that is over two thousand years old and translated hundreds of times." I totally agree with that too, though the basis to the bible is worth believing, (being kind to one another, and not killing or cheating), times have changed. No longer is it acceptable to beat your wife, or have hundreds of wives. No longer do people believe that eating certain animals is a sin. Or stoning people publicly is the right thing to do. Times have changed, and with that change some of those things are no longer preached because they are now wrong, they are now outdated. And also, as my friend said, it's been translated hundreds of times, maybe thousands. There are many different versions, so who's to say that what you read now, or how your preacher interprets it, is what it was originally intended to be?
You know what God does say that many people preaching hate and sin are forgetting, but that I completely agree with? One: everyone sins. Jesus said, "Whoever is without sin, may he be the first to cast a stone." If it's a sin to love someone, even of the same gender, in your book, then so be it. But you can't judge others because they sin differently than you. Two: God said that only he has the right to judge all people. Therefore, no one has the right to pass judgement on another. So while you may not agree with others' lifestyles, it isn't in your right to say that it is wrong for them to live that way. If you truly believe their loving another will send them to hell, then say nothing and allow them to be judged by God on judgement day. Three: the most important, God said, "love thy neighbor." You hear that? Love thy neighbor. Jesus spread love to all people, not just the top of the top. He loved those who society shamed. So as a Christian, shouldn't you mold yourself after him? Shouldn't you try and spread love and not hate?
Another thing, the attraction that humans are born with to the same sex has existed long before Christianity was a religion. Long before the words of hate to ostracize those people were ever said. Love was being spread by heterosexuals and homosexuals. Being lesbian or gay isn't a choice, it's in the DNA. You didn't chose to have the birthmark you do, or the eye color you have, even how your voice sounds. That's how you were born, right? You can't help how you were born, could you? It's just like that, no one can change what they like, or who they fall in love with. It isn't a choice, it's a reality.
So like I said, you don't have to agree, what you believe is your choice. But try to form your own beliefs. Don't just think that something is wrong because someone else told you it was. Think for yourself. Although it may be very uncomfortable for you to accept it, know this, nothing worth doing is comfortable. The things worth doing that make you a better person and give you a better life are scary, and uncomfortable, and that's okay. Also, like I said last week, if something doesn't apply to you, you don't really have a say. One person loving another doesn't affect you, like your love for someone else doesn't affect anyone but you and that person. And there's always the golden rule, treat others with the same respect you wish to be treated, and don't judge people before you get to know them, and as always, be kind to one another. We are all human, we all have the same human needs, the same human desires. We all want to love and be loved. So let love happen. Chose to accept it or not, but either way, learn to coexist.
"Whatever god you believe in, we all come from the same one. Strip away the fear, underneath, it's all the same love."
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