When does expression to please yourself become an act to appease everyone else?

Fake. Liar. Harsh words huh? The truth is that, that's reality. So much of society is fake, and lying isn't just a past time of teens anymore, but a mandatory survival mechanism in society. The truth is, no one wants the truth, so you've just got to hide it, or be shunned.

Honestly, this is where I'm going to start being blunt, and maybe some of you guys reading my blog are going to start disliking me. But, if my hunch is correct, you'll only dislike what you know is to be true, so just bare with me.

This isn't the first time I've come to understand this type of survival, actually, it wasn't even recently. It's just that the older I get, the more true this becomes. The idea of a fake society. When I was young, I was taught that lying is bad, by everyone. Every lie is a lie and of the same equality, and that all lies have their consequences. To this day, I would say only the last of the three are true, everything does have it's consequences. (Refer to Newton's law, now apply that to life.) The problem with those teachings is that those people were trying to simplify life for our young minds, little did we know we'd get just barely older and understand that if you are sad, you don't tell a random stranger your whole life story. If you're angry, you contain it until you are alone. If you want to call someone out for their lies, well, you know what that leads to. So we all go around our first several years of life letting fly what's on our minds and having emotional meltdowns over not getting candy in the grocery store.

If you read the ladies and gentleman blog I wrote, refer to that. This is highly related. It's about being polite. The good and the bad of that. Here I zone in on the bad, the falsity. Yet, I would like everyone to consider and comprehend the boundaries between fakeness and polite necessity.

Fakeness is the problem that I see today, among everyone. It isn't just the polite smile, even if you are feeling down, because that can have it's benefits. It's having fake friends, a false persona, and just a conjoured up image of what your mind thinks everyone wants you to be. Why do we do this? Maybe we don't like or are embarressed by who we are. Maybe it's about acceptance. Maybe it's just a mad game. Either way, we're losing ourselves. We focus on how nice it is to have so many smiling hello's from "friends" we forget to see if any are real. We lose ourselves in the perfect us that we've created for the world to see, and hidden away the real us, than one morning we might just wake up and see that the remnants of reality have vanished.

I think it was in elementary school when I first started seeing this, I never really had many friends, and I want to blame it on my sincerity. I misunderstood the point of really faking it till I made it theory, and therefore didn't really adapt it. If someones outfit looked ridiculous, and they asked, well I'd tell them. I grew to despise the "popular" crowd when I was young, merely out of envy. Today though, I realize, there's not much to it at all. (And the drama's not all that worth it.) But anyway, I found out that while I had a few friends, at least they were real friends, the "popular" crowd was made up of fakes, and well, my way was better.

So here's where it's all summed up, faking it is necessary to an extent. One should never forget who s/he is because you are all you've really got. It's one thing to tell a little white lie that harms no one and helps us all, then to lie to yourself, in any way, shape, or form. The truth of the matter is, lying to yourself is the worst thing you can ever do. Don't lose yourself, and your true personality will always shine through. Faking it isn't always needed either. It doesn't matter if people like the real you or not, there are always going to be people who oppose. Someone else's happiness is not worth risking mine. And the problem is that no one can be satisfied solely with my being happy. In fact, they have a mind set on what should be happening, and will not be satisfied until that happens. And to be honest? Their envisionings aren't really something I care to know.

As long as you are real with you, like who you make yourself, and honest with those you need to be honest with, happiness will pursue you. And happiness is all we're really after anyway, isn't it?

PS: Tune in soon to see a short series on "The What Ifs".

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